The Art of Becoming U membership officially opens the last week of January. That doesn’t mean you have to wait to begin!

As soon as you register, you can enter the community space, get oriented, explore a few meaningful resources already available in the library, and start connecting with other early members and with me. I’ll be popping into the community from time to time, so go ahead and introduce yourself, engage in conversations, let me know if you have any questions in the approapriate forum and begin settling into the space. 

As we get closer to the official opening, you’ll start to see announcements for the first Loving Discipline 101 classes, upcoming coaching sessions, and what’s unfolding next.

And don’t worry — when you join before the official opening, your paid membership period doesn’t begin until the membership officially opens. You’re not losing time or value by joining early; you’re gaining the opportunity to arrive, explore, and ease in the work before things fully begin.

Short answer?  That depends.  And that’s intentional.

The Art of Becoming U is designed to support long-term growth, not short bursts of effort. Think consistency over quantity, a marathon rather than a sprint.

This isn’t a program where everyone moves at the same pace or where you can fall behind. Part of the work is learning how to stay engaged in a way that actually works for you — your nervous system, your life, your priorities — and building a rhythm you can sustain over time.

Some of the most meaningful work often comes from staying with one practice, one insight, or one shift for longer than you think you “should” — until it’s fully integrated and embodied in your life and your very being.

With that in mind, here are a few specifics to help you get a feel for what's involved:

Coaching calls are 60 minutes. Coursework and monthly themes will include short, focused teachings broken up into individual lessons.  For early Founding Members, these teachings be delivered live, with Q&A and coaching time afterward.

That said, attending live is always optional. Recordings will be available for everything, so you can listen to the recordings and engage with them at your own pace in your own time. Some people like to listen while walking, folding laundry, or doing other low-focus tasks. Others prefer to sit with the material more intentionally. You get to discover and choose what works best for you.

Lessons will also often include accompanying processes to help you reflect and see how the teaching applies to you personally. These may involve things like journaling, deeper inquiry, or guided reflection, and the time they take can vary depending on the process itself, what you’re personally working through, and how deeply you choose to take it.

Each lesson also includes a practice — a concrete way to apply and embody the work in your real life. This can look like pausing throughout your day, checking in with yourself, noticing what’s happening in your body and emotions, and making small, intentional shifts in real time. These practices often don’t take a lot of dedicated time, but they do take presence and commitment, and when done consistently, they’re often where the most meaningful change happens.

Bottom line, Loving Discipline is first and foremost about learning to discover and understand what you truly need, what works for you, and learning to trust and follow that.

What do you want this journey of becoming to look and feel like for you?

How much time do you want to give?

This membership is here to support you in creating that, providing the structure and materials to engage in this work in whatever way — at whatever level — serves you best.

Again, the emphasis is on consistency, not quantity. Small, steady steps win every single time.

You get to decide how deeply and how quickly you engage. Some people love to dive in and dedicate larger blocks of time. Others move very slowly, allowing the work to settle and integrate before moving on. I will never discourage that. Often, going slowly is exactly what creates the most lasting change.
We can refine, trim, or layer in specifics next — but this holds your heart and your language.

Absolutely not. While many find the community to be one of the most valuable parts of this work, participation is always optional.

There are plenty of ways to engage with this work beyond the community. Some members love joining discussions, asking questions, and learning alongside others. Others prefer to focus quietly on the teachings, practices, and their own personal process. Both approaches are completely valid.

This membership is designed to support you in whatever way works best for you. You can engage deeply in the community, participate occasionally, or not at all — and still receive real value from the work.

Although The Art of Becoming U includes all of these elements, it is fundamentally different in that most courses and programs are designed to be completed. Traditional coaching often focuses on short-term goals, outcomes, or external accountability.

This membership is different. It is designed to support ongoing growth, integration, and self-leadership as a way of life — cultivating and sustaining a never-ending path of self-exploration and self-mastery, rather than moving toward a final destination.

Rather than moving everyone through the same material on the same timeline, this work meets you where you are. You’re learning how to work with yourself — your nervous system, your patterns, your pace, your preferences — instead of trying to force change through pressure or willpower.

This isn’t about finishing content or being coached into better behavior. It’s about developing the capacity to continue growing, integrating, and learning long after any single lesson or session.

During the initial rollout phase, while the Loving Discipline 101 Signature Course and the OMG Own My Gap Roadmap are being delivered live for the first time, you can expect new lessons to be added on a weekly basis. Coaching calls will take place at least twice a month, and recordings will be added shortly afterward.

As the membership continues to unfold, new content will be added through the monthly themes. The rhythm of those themes can vary depending on the focus — some may include weekly lessons, while others may center more on challenges, guided exploration, or ongoing discussion.

New resources will also be added periodically to the resource library over time.

New content is added to give you more options and pathways — not to overwhelm you or create more pressure. You’re always encouraged to move at your own pace, engage with what resonates most for you, and leave the rest behind.

No problem at all. In fact, this is an important part of the work.

Loving Discipline is about redefining what showing up actually means. It’s not about keeping up with content, performing, or staying externally engaged at all costs. It’s about shifting from consistency of consumption or performance to consistency of relationship with yourself.

There may be seasons when slowing down, stepping back from lessons, or not actively participating in the community is exactly what you need. That doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. Often, the real work during those times is internal — listening to yourself, staying connected to your values, and continuing to relate to yourself with presence and care in your day-to-day life.

The community can remain a gentle touchpoint during those periods, without requiring additional time or effort — a place that helps you stay oriented to the work without pressure to consume or produce.

Ultimately, this membership is here to support you in maintaining inner consistency, not external participation. You’re always encouraged to move at the pace that supports your nervous system, your life, and your growth — knowing that slowing down is not a failure, but often a meaningful part of the process.

This membership is for you if you’re serious about creating real, lasting change — even if you don’t feel confident yet, even if a part of you still doubts whether it’s possible, even if you’re not sure how it will unfold.

If you’re tired of beating yourself up, forcing change through pressure or willpower, and beginning to recognize that something internal has been getting in the way, if you know you have more within you and are ready to address what’s been holding you back so you can access your full potential and truly take ownership of your life, you’re definitely in the right place.

This membership is NOT for you if you’re looking for a quick fix, a shortcut, or surface-level results. If you’re only looking to change your external results with no mind to how you experience your life on the inside, if you want someone else to fix you, drive you, or give you all the answers without doing the deeper inner work yourself, then this program is definitely not for you.

Yes. Many members are already in therapy, coaching, or other personal growth programs.
This membership is designed to complement that work, not replace it. It offers tools, practices, and a learning-oriented framework you can integrate alongside whatever support you already have in place.
If you’re in therapy — especially working with significant trauma — it’s always wise to keep your therapist informed about any additional growth work you’re doing. You’re welcome to bring insights, reflections, or practices from this membership into those conversations.
Ultimately, this work is about helping you develop a stronger relationship with yourself and a sustainable way of learning from your life experiences. How you integrate it with other support is entirely up to you.

This is an annual membership, not a month-to-month subscription. While there is a monthly payment option, you are enrolling in a year-long container designed to support deep, lasting change over time.

You have 30 days from enrollment to explore the membership and make sure it’s the right fit. If you decide within that window that it’s not for you, you can cancel with no questions asked.

After the first 30 days, you are committed to the full year. That said, you are never required to actively participate at any given pace. You can slow down, step back, or re-engage as needed — the space will still be here for you.

At the end of the year, you’ll have the option to renew, but there is no obligation to continue.

This structure is intentional. It supports consistency, depth, and real integration — not quick fixes or short-term dips in and out.

For every friend or family member you refer who joins the membership and remains enrolled past the 30-day money-back guarantee period, you’ll receive one free month of membership in the form of a refund at the current monthly rate.

You can refer one person or many — there’s no limit to how many free months you can receive.

To receive credit, simply have the person you referred fill out the Refer-a-Friend form in the community and list you as their referrer within the first 30 days of their enrollment.

If you’re on the monthly payment plan, your monthly payments will continue as normal. Once your referral has remained a member beyond the 30-day guarantee window, a refund equal to one month's payment at the current monthly rate will be issued to your account within the following 30 days.